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Feeling scattered and overwhelmed? Feel like your mind is running with 50 tabs open leaving you mentally exhausted and feeling inadequate? Maybe you have so many passions and ideas that you find it difficult to be truly present, opening the door of mom guilt? You don’t know where to start so you disengage all together and it leaves you feeling depleted. If that is you then this is the place for you to fill that cup sister friend! Welcome to Control the Chaos Mama. Here, we free ourselves from the chaos and embrace our strengths through self discovery (enneagram etc) to move toward the compelled business women we were meant to be. It’s time to finally take our power back and gain that follow through that we’ve been desperately needing, while also learning to leave the swirl behind. Hi, I’m Angel McElhaney and after losing my mom when she was just 48 I realized that time was fleeting and that it was time to start living and do more of what you love. Let’s make meaning out of our hard stuff end gain traction toward the life we want and finally act on your amazing idea.
Episodes
Saturday Apr 24, 2021
Saturday Apr 24, 2021
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is when you are emotionally sensitive to a perceived rejection or criticism by someone you care about. You feel like you are falling in some way and the reaction can be more extreme than in neurotypicals.
Stimming- Stimmung is self stimulation and is repetitive sounds, movements, words etc. It could be twirling your hair, biting your nails, but is harmless typically.
Body Mirroring- A strategy used to get things done by having someone with you to get things done and keep you company.
Do you do any of these? Did you know they were related to adhd?
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Saturday Apr 24, 2021
Saturday Apr 24, 2021
Energy for Launch
During our 28ish day cycle our energy rises and falls due to hormones. You can use this information of cycle syncing to plan your launch and ensure you don't burn out. This also will allow you to give yourself grace if you are feeling such dread to go face to camera or show up the same way that you did the week before. This can leave us feeling lazy or unmotivated when it's all about the hormones.
Click subscribe for the big strategy launch roadmap coming soon.
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Saturday Apr 24, 2021
Saturday Apr 24, 2021
One of the reasons we become an entrepreneur is to be our own boss and to do things are way. With the noise of social media and all the programs and plans it's hard to filter through the noise of how to do things our way. Today we talk about what to do with an idea and a key component to my year being much simpler. We discuss a hard decision I had to make and also the importance of getting your ideas out into the world. So what is your big idea? I'd love to hear them and cheer you on.
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Thursday Jan 07, 2021
Thursday Jan 07, 2021
What do you NEED to do versus what do you WANT to do?
If you learn about who you are and how you think and our motivated then you know that as a Multipassionate, enneagram 8, ADHD squirrelpreneur or Creative then it’s we can go in the flow of what we want to do and actually end up doing what we need to do too.
In this episode we dive into some strategy to avoid procrastination, step into our power as strong minded female entrepreneurs and realize the power giving ourselves what we need to move. We also talk about perfectionism and how to get out of our own way when it comes to overthinking and completing tasks on that dang to do list.
Entrepreneurship is about freedom and I hope you step into that and the power and choice that you have and realize you can go your own way. What is something you want to do today? Screenshot this episode and share in your stories and tag me at angel.McElhaney! I would love to see how much you get done when you let yourself start with you.
Wednesday Dec 09, 2020
Wednesday Dec 09, 2020
What a year!
Now that it's getting colder and darker earlier I could feel my energy drop. I did several things to get my energy back up and wanted to share with you some tried and true ways to protect your energy and prioritize your health. I know everyone says, "put your mask on first" but do you prioritize it when you have a deadline after procrastinating? It's hard to make yourself do it in these circumstances and so let's get intentional and do it together.
Commit. Community. Connection
1.) Isolate - Prioritize time alone whether that be a walk outside, running an errand or even a shower! After two weeks quarantining a meal out and about is going to feel like a vacation for me so fresh air and the power of putting your shoes on is real! While people need people to get through stuff I want you to prioritize even just 15 minutes alone a day so that you can reflect, breath, pray or be. For whatever reason just "Be-ing" is underrated compared to "Do-ing" so we need to make some intentional adjustments there!
2.) Generate Movement- I'm not even saying this so that you lose that quarantine 15, but the mental benefits of movement are huge too! I want you to pick an amount of time you want to commit to moving and just do it. Even if it is some squats before you jump into the shower, some squats while waiting for that coffee to reheat for the second time or going for a walk.
3.) Moderate- Pick something you want to moderate. Maybe you want to slay the sugar dragon, declutter your house, or manage your carbs. Pick something and make it specific, measurable and realistic and focus on this one thing.
4.) Regulate- Ok so you said what you want to moderate, now we need to figure out how you want to track that progress. Do you want to download an app to track your food or movement? Maybe you will take measurements or get a huge water bottle.
5.) Create- Remember this is a time to get back to basics. Remove so much input and focus on creating. This creating time doesn't need to be for monetization, but it can be for service or even just you. When is the last time you dropped all the business to dos and just created whatever you wanted? Come on over to the facebook group or find me on instagram and tag me with your creations. I can't wait to see what you make when you remove all the noise.
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Tuesday Dec 08, 2020
Tuesday Dec 08, 2020
3 steps to go from Idea to Execution as a Squirrelpreneur or Jack of all trades
- Idea
- Dream
- Goals
But... how?
Brain dump all of your ideas and look at the times in your lives that you have had hard stuff and overcame. I want you to think about yourself and all your life experiences and I want you think about the things that fire you up, tick you off or stir up some kind of emotion. News flash, these feelings mean it's important and you care. Caring is the main step in actually sticking with your idea. This makes it important and helps you to redirect when you get off track instead of quit.
DREAM= Big Picture
What is the impact you want to create in the world?
If you focus on the results and the solution that you can create for someone then you will have fuel. Energy is key in finishing anything. This key in thinking of the big picture for your vision and WHY you are doing this in the first place. You need to tie that vision to your emotion to honor your hard stuff and use that to fuel you up when you feel your energy deplete.
Let yourself dream and figure out the answer to the question, "What do I want?" Stop doing all the things that everyone says to do and slow down and zero in on what you actually want to do and why it is important to you and your impact.
Goals-The small stuff
Gain traction in your goals and finally get that idea into action by breaking up that big picture dream into smaller chunks. I just got the image of my kindergartener trying to read a big word.. wouldn't you think he would give up if I didn't teach him in chunks? Same thing applies here.. allow yourself to get small wins along the way. Also, if you are ADHD, distractible or a rebel like me then x3 your timeline, plan time to rest with cycle syncing in mind (check out my episode on that here) and set yourself up for success.
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Friday Nov 20, 2020
Friday Nov 20, 2020
Covid. Time change. Colder weather >>OH MY!
Did the vision of Dorothy going down the yellow brick road come to mind. "Lions, Tigers, Bears OH MY! haha seriously though as if Covid wasn't already putting fear and worry and stress onto us, we are compiling it now with coldness and darkness here in Ohio. It's making me feel like days are on a loop and just so in a rut.
Wallow or Gratitude. Which do you choose?
After I lost my mom in 2011, I found that I was in this hole of grief that felt like pushing a door closed with rushing water on the other side. I would push and push with all of my might so that no water could get through for fear that I would drown. I later learned that if I cracked the door, felt through the ick and experienced my emotions then it slowed the rate of the water and it allowed me to keep afloat. Holding this imaginary door closed is exhausting and eventually the water comes in, so why not crack the door. It's uncomfortable and sad and all the things, but so needed.
First of all, don't get it twisted with this heading title. I don't think there is anything wrong with wallowing. In a way I feel like it's warranted from being strong too long or pushing past the days in some ways. Take a breath, a rest, cry in the shower or finally say "No" to adding more to your plate and then when you are all done stand up in gratitude with these 10 ways to get you back to you.
In todays' episode you'll learn 10 ways to get unstuck and take that next right step. Negativity is natural and normal. It's easier to see what's going wrong then what is going right, but when you are ready to get back up I hope these tips help you. If you need someone to lean on in the process come over to our free community on facebook by clicking here.
10 ways to get UNSTUCK and reset a negative mindset in todays episode here.
Tuesday Nov 03, 2020
Tuesday Nov 03, 2020
Do you feel like you take 1 step forward and 3 steps back when it comes to reaching your goals?
Top 6 Excuses
1.) I don’t have time
2.) I don’t know how/ I don’t have the knowledge
3.) I can’t do it (self confidence and belief)
4.) The timing isn’t right/ I’m in a tough season
5.) I’m too young or too old
6.) I don’t have enough money to do that (lack thinking)
Ways that excuses impact our behavior.
1.) We rationalize the behavior
2.) We deny responsibility of the behavior. Being a victim of your circumstances.
3.) We distract ourselves.
4.) We change the behavior.
What are you ready to say NO to for No-vember ?
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Wednesday Oct 28, 2020
Wednesday Oct 28, 2020
What are the self sabotaging beliefs and behaviors that you are doing right now?
What is Self Sabotage?
Behaviors or thought patterns that are holding you back. Self sabotaging behaviors prevent you from getting what you want and undermine what your core values and goals.
Our brain keeps us safe
When we are being stretched for growth our brain can't differentiate that from a real threat to our well-being and so it takes these steps towards the unknown as scary and dangerous. This makes us more likely to step back and self sabotage our growth in favor of the comfortable and known. It's not your fault! We are wired this way. Take some of these steps to push past the fear and uncomfortable feelings and FEEL through them instead of run from them.
Want to learn more about this stress response? Check out this article here for more information on this.
Some self sabotage behaviors are:
- Procrastination
- Perfectionism
- Problem based thinking instead of solution based thinking (Click here for an episode on this)
- Over indulgence
- Comparisonitis
- Imposter Syndrome
- Focusing on urgent tasks vs. important tasks
- Saying "I don't have time" or "I don't have money" or other limiting beliefs that are keeping you small.
- Using absolutes in your language like "never" or "always"
What can I do if I am self sabotaging?
- Surround yourself with people who will pour belief in you.
- Reflect-Make time and space for you to have time alone, with God, to journal or to reflect on what you want, your big picture vision and get in alignment with your goals and core values or intentions.
- Focus on YOUR journey-Compare yourself to only yourself, unfollow people that triggers you comparing yourself with.
- Time block-Change how you are thinking about time-blocking and realize that this will give you more traction and beat distraction and feel more control. Check out my episode on this here.
- Let it go! Don't dwell on past mistakes or failures and forgive yourself and take the next right step (totally a FROZEN reference there ha!)
- Start Small-Give yourself small wins so you can build confidence and belief in yourself and show yourself you are capable.
Come over to Multipassionate Mompreneur and get the support that you need to get into action.
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Monday Oct 19, 2020
Monday Oct 19, 2020
How to start with Pinterest Marketing for the overwhelmed work from home mom
1.) Use longtail keywords to make the pin and blog post more searchable.
2.) Upload a pin to pinterest and connect the url to that blog post and include a pin description. Be sure to make the description conversational. Use language that humans use.
3.) Be specific. Have your keyword in mind. Go to pinterest and start searching keywords that your audience is searching and create content around that.
4.) Be consistent. Pin 5-20 times a day and schedule it out with Tailwind.
Questions
Q: Should I keep my business and personal accounts separate?
A: You can combine all your boards, but make the boards for your personal use private.
Q: Is it different for brick and mortar businesses vs. online businesses when it comes to Pinterest?
A: Brick and mortar businesses still need to create content and it’s a valuable way to use blogging and Pinterest to connect and build trust with potential clients.
Q: Does it matter when you post on Pinterest?
A: Test! Use tailwind to schedule posts and it’ll recommend times to pin based on your account.
Q: Is there a certain amount of pinning that you should do?
A: You should pin at least 5 times a day. Schedule this out with tailwind.
Q: Should our personal and business boards be separate accounts?
A: You can keep just one business account, but just keep your personal boards private.
Money Mindset Shifts
1.) Hire a mentor-Pay for speed and focus on growing your leadership and personal development.
2.) Get out of your own head and take messy action. Start moving and start talking to people and get it out of your head.
3.) Change your language.
What if you rephrased it from “I can’t afford it to How can I afford it.”
“It’s not a lack of resources that keeps us stuck, it’s a lack of resourcefulness”
-Tony Robbins
What if you rephrased it from “I can’t afford it to How can I afford it?”
Tips for making an impact in your business
1.) Hire a mentor. Don’t lone wolf it. Focus on your growth.
2.) Take action. You will gain clarity through the action. Instead of thinking our way there we need to move!
Tired of the crickets? Ready to accelerate your engagement with a Facebook group? Come on over to Multipassionate Mompreneur FREE FB Group Community and let's work on building connections, community, and collaboration together. This is a great place for work at home mompreneurs to gain some support as they take on all the things. We are better together so let's go.
Ready to get into action? There is an event coming up in the group called "FB group Engagement Growth Hacks Workshop" where you will learn some tangible and tactical things to do in your group to double your engagement in 5 days.
Come over to Multipassionate Mompreneur and get the support that you need to get into action.
Let’s Connect!
Learn–> www.angelmcelhaney.com
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Join the Sisterhood —>Multipassionate Mompreneur FB community
Work with Angel–> FB GROUP CONNECTION PLAN
Tired of the crickets? Ready to accelerate your engagement with a Facebook group? Come on over to Multipassionate Mompreneur FREE FB Group Community and let's work on building connections, community, and collaboration together. This is a great place for work at home mompreneurs to gain some support as they take on all the things. We are better together so let's go.
Ready to get into action? There is an event coming up in the group called "FB group Engagement Growth Hacks Workshop" where you will learn some tangible and tactical things to do in your group to double your engagement in 5 days.
Come over to Multipassionate Mompreneur and get the support that you need to get into action.
Let’s Connect!
Learn–> www.angelmcelhaney.com
Connect –> info@angelmcelhaney.com
Join the Sisterhood —>Multipassionate Mompreneur FB community
Work with Angel–> FB GROUP CONNECTION PLAN